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Saturday, 10 October 2009

  • What is happiness?

    When I was young, being happy had everything to do with I had. I had to have that certain Barbie doll or that pair of jeans. I had to be as thin as those girls and be popular with those boys. I had to be in a relationship with that guy or be on good terms with that girl. Happiness was about as materialistic as it could ever get. Now that I've passed those years of my life, I have come to an age where my happiness still means what I want, even if it isn't materialistic. For the past 10 months, my life has been about one person. It's scary for me to think that after my previous relationship, I could be here again so soon and so quickly. In many ways, I have surpassed every benchmark in my life without blinking and realizing where all the time has gone. I can't remember any huge arguments. I can't remember feeling like we were never able to compromise. We always have this ability to work things out and talk things through. Yet, I find myself still wanting something... Happiness.

    Don't get me wrong. I am happy. I am so well beyond grateful that he is in my life, but I wonder what these months have meant to me when I constantly find myself going back and remembering and lingering on memories that shouldn't make me think this hard. I should just be happy. It should be enough to just be happy. I can't think of many things wrong with him. In fact, many times I think his only fault is not having the same wealth of experience with women like I do with men. We once struggled with the idea of me having experienced so much and him wanting to be with someone who could experience everything for the first time with him. It's everything down to first kiss. I wish I could have given him that, all of my experiences.

    Now, I'm sitting here in my apartment struggling with the idea of happiness when he's sitting in his apartment with friends being happy together. If I'm happy now, what is this feeling that I'm not doing inside of me?

Saturday, 05 September 2009

  • Currently
    Comme Si de Rien N'Etait
    By Carla Bruni
    Tu es ma came
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    Driving home around drunk people

    Typically, I either stay out much later or come home a lot earlier. Today was a special exception because it marked the last of my first two days of school. All of the introductions are done. Monday, we will start putting our noses to the grindstone again. Oh, how I will love Behavioral Neuroscience... NOT!!

    After choir and dinner and driving home to relax and a few hours of Sims 3, I drove to Billiards (this awesome billiard/espresso bar/restaurant) in Fargo, North Dakota. I met up with my friends to play pool and drink and enjoy myself. We played for about an hour before we decided that we should all go home and sleep. We paid out (which is another long story entirely, maybe I'll get to that later) and headed outside to make plans. We decided we should all just call it a night, so we get into our respective cars and head for our respective homes. I'm driving out of the parking lot of the establishment and am following an SUV-type vehicle that looks a lot like a pair of my friends own. They don't pull off at the right place to get to their apartment complex, so I quickly decided that it is someone else. They are driving about 45 mph on I-94... Minimum speed is 55 mph. I pass them and head to my exit. They are far behind me at this point. The exit I take has a light. I need to take a left turn, so I get into the lane and signal and wait... Two minutes later, the same silver SUV that I had passed earlier was next to me. They were trying to get my attention. I'm glad that I ignored them. I had the radio on, so I just pretended they didn't exist. The light turned green, so I drove in my lane and continued on the main road that leads to where I need to turn off to reach my neighborhood and my apartment building. They get in front of me for the first light. He is making some type of gesture with his hand that really doesn't mean anything. In the least, no one was flipping me off. This light turns green. We accelerate, and the next light turns red. This time, the car in front of me decides to head into the turn lane. This puts them on my left side this time. Again, they try to get my attention. I think they realize I'm ignoring them at this point, so they get really upset. The arrow turns green for them so they have to turn. The car in the lane in front of them starts to pull forward and almost hits them as they are trying to get my attention and rile me up. I drive off as soon as the light turns green. I looked back for a second to see where they had turned. They just turned into the corner parking lot of MeritCare and went on their way. If they would have followed me, I have no idea what I would have done or where I would have gone (who I would have called). 

    Have you ever had an experience like this? What happened, and how did you react to the situation?

Tuesday, 25 August 2009

Tuesday, 18 August 2009

  • Currently
    Smart People
    By Dennis Quaid, Thomas Haden Church, Sarah Jessica Parker, Ellen Page, Ashton Holmes
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    Romantic Not-So-Comedies

    I sat down today in front of my computer after work. I spent time on Facebook, cehcked my email accounts, did some homework, ate dinner, and played Guild Wars. After that, I received a call from Asha asking how I was and what I was up to. It was completely unexpected, but nice considering my recent heartaching. The plans we made are something I am definitely looking forward to (especially to avoid being in this apartment by myself all of the time). I called my father and talked about how I was feeling (which at the time was pretty rotten and lonely). Being alone and feeling alone are two different things entirely...

    After realizing there was nothing left for me to possibly do on Facebook, I figured I might watch a movie. I got all the way through Prince Caspian and was still in the mood for a movie, so I surfed Netflix until I found the perfect movie: Smart People. I had started watching it a week or so ago, and I thought I might finish it off or re-start it so that I had something to take up some time. Throughout the whole film, I just felt sad and sadder. I went through every bit of the movie feeling like I understood what they were feeling, each of the characters. I felt like I had little parts of me that related to each of the characters, espeically the wanting to break out and be yourself, even when no one else is around to see it. At the end, I just remember feeling so... nostalgic. I have been thinking and thinking for another word, but every time I consider words, I just come back to nostalgia.

    Isn't it interesting how romantic comedies just leave you feeling the same way? All of these romance-drama-comedy films just follow a cookie-cutter plot with a different moral or attitude. Some are quirky and some are cute. Others are depressing or justneutral and flat.

    I had a very neutral and flat day today. It all began with no sleep, a lot of tears, an early wakeup, a rush out fo the house, a depressing car ride, and the most beautiful "goodbye" I have ever experienced. Today was nostalgia day.

    Ever feel like you just have those days? How do you unwind from your BLAH days?
  • The airport

    I have never been on the dropping off and leaving side of airports. I have always been on the "see you later" and the "I'll be home soon" side of things. I guess I never realized how hard it is to take someone you love to the airport when you know you won't be seeing them in a week after vacation is over. I won't be seeing him for the next 3 and 1/2 months... It's so hard to think of him being gone for so long. I suppose that when he's here it just feels like he's always been here. I just melt in him every time I see him and hold him. 

    We've had one very hard day. We were both grumpy about the impending absence of each other, started cuddling, only to erupt in tears the minute we didn't have something to say. We were trying so hard to just let it go and really hope that it would be over if we woke up bright and early the next day. What hurts worse is that I know I could go and be with him right now, right up until he boarded that plane and flew away. The hard part is that I know once he is on that place, he's off to a foreign country where I can't surprise visit or text every two seconds. The battel over the seven hour time difference begins again. With school starting soon for me and his teaching starting for him over there... It will be hard to coordinate times when we can both talk on the phone or even online.

    It sucks having to wait 3 and 1/2 months to see him again when I should be able to see him right now, but I can't be picky. I suppose I'll have the rest of my life to make sure he never leaves for this long again. :)

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